Gay Men Going Deeper The Problem With Self-Love
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Aug 21, 2025 Michael Pezzullo, a West Hollywood psychotherapist specializing in trauma and healing, joins Michael DiIorio for a candid discussion about the complexities of self-love. They explore the fine line between self-comforting and self-coddling, revealing how emotional sensitivity can tilt into fragility. Listeners will learn about the Self-Love Spectrum, the dangers of self-bulldozing, and how trauma influences self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the importance of balancing care with growth, ultimately redefining what real self-love looks like.
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Self-Love Can Harm Or Heal
- Self-love can strengthen or weaken you depending on how it's practiced, ranging from comforting to coddling.
- Healing requires building emotional capacity and scar tissue, not permanent safety or avoidance.
Comfort, Then Reengage
- Comfort your wounds but set a time to re-engage with life and learn from the pain.
- Use nervous-system tending as a launch pad, not a long-term refuge from growth.
Work With Resistance, Don't Dismiss It
- If a client resists growth, explore the stuckness rather than dismissing them.
- Ask what they gain from remaining in the story and meet them where their resistance is.
