Episode 46: “I Feel Like My Life has Changed and Yours Hasn’t” with Erin & Stephen Mitchell

Jul 4, 2024

Erin and Stephen Mitchell, a dynamic duo of authors and couples counselors, explore the transformative effects of parenting on relationships. They share personal struggles post-baby and reveal how to manage resentment and connect amidst exhaustion. The conversation touches on intimacy after children and the impact of co-sleeping on marriages. With insights drawn from their book, 'Too Tired to Fight,' they provide tools for effective communication and navigating conflict, showing that even challenges can lead to deeper connections.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

Navigating Relationships After Parenthood

01:46 • 13min

Addressing Everyday Challenges: Skin Care and Meal Planning

14:56 • 3min

Navigating Connection Amid Parenthood

17:34 • 20min

Navigating Parenting and Relationships

37:37 • 3min

Navigating Co-Sleeping Conflicts

40:49 • 16min

Exploring Inner Art in Parenting Conversations

56:41 • 2min

Episode 46: “I Feel Like My Life has Changed and Yours Hasn’t” with Erin & Stephen Mitchell @couples.counseling.for.parents

Having kids changes your relationship. If you have ever felt misunderstood, disconnected, exhausted, and resentful towards your partner- you’re not alone- and this episode is for you! Join Rachael and Erin & Stephen Mitchell, husband and wife duo & authors of the new book Too Tired to Fight, as they talk all about relationships, specifically relationships AFTER kids.

Here’s what they discuss inside this episode:

How and why having kids can change your relationship
Erin & Stephen share about their own relationship experience and struggles after kids
The biggest struggles people have right after having a baby and why
How to regulate your own emotions so you can communicate effectively with your partner
Resentment- how to handle it and what to do about it
How to connect when you’re feeling exhausted & disconnected
Does all conflict have to be “bad”? When might it be time for therapy?
Reshaping your frame of what connection is
Sex & intimacy after kids
Will bed sharing ruin your marriage?
The inspo behind their new book- Too Tired To Fight and how they wrote it together
And so much more relationship advice!

Erin and Stephen are the cofounders of Couples Counseling for Parents, a company focused on providing access to research-informed, psychologically sound online education for couples. Both have a clinical education—Stephen, a PhD in medical family therapy, and Erin, a master’s degree in counseling psychology—and they have a combined 23 years of experience providing counseling and education. They have been married for 16 years and have three kids.

Mentioned in this episode:

Too Tired to Fight: PREORDER NOW!

Couples Counseling for Parents: The Podcast

Erin and Stephen’s website for their workshops & membership: https://couplescounselingforparents.com/

Erin’s Instagram: @couples.counseling.for.parents

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Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast.

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