The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Gender Expert: Men Are Emotionally Dependent On Women & We're Treating Them Like Malfunctioning Women! Richard Reeves

Jul 8, 2024

Richard Reeves, a Senior Fellow at the Brookings Institution and President of the American Institute for Boys and Men, dives into the pressing issues men face today. He discusses the alarming rise in male suicide rates and the emotional toll of feeling unnecessary in modern society. Reeves highlights the role of marriage as a stabilizing force and critiques toxic masculinity figures like Andrew Tate. With a focus on redefining masculinity, he emphasizes the need for open conversations about mental health and the changing dynamics of relationships in today's world.

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Richard Reeves

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Men's mental health is impacted by uncertainties in defining contemporary masculinity, leading to challenges in education, employment, and mental well-being.

Initiatives to emphasize men's importance in communities, workplaces, and relationships are essential for their well-being and self-perception.

Modern dating dynamics introduce new challenges for men in feeling needed and valued, impacting their sense of importance and contribution in relationships.

Men and women exhibit distinct behaviors in partner selection, creating challenges in navigating modern romantic spaces.

Real-life male role models and genuine conversations are crucial in addressing men's struggles with issues like suicidality, loneliness, and mental health challenges.

Deep dives

The Evolution of Men's Roles in Modern Society

Men in modern society face challenges due to changes in traditional roles. Previously, men were expected to be providers and heads of households, but with cultural shifts and women's economic independence, men are struggling to find their place. This has led to educational disparities, stagnating wages, increased singleness among young men, and a rising suicide rate, with men feeling useless and unneeded.

Defining Non-Toxic Masculinity

01:17

The Importance of Feeling Needed in the Human Experience

02:33

Engagement Through Action: Men Open Up in Context

00:48

Understanding Men's Emotional Vulnerability

00:38

Intro

2min

Navigating the Controversy of Modern Masculinity

2min

A Journey Through Policy and Inequality Analysis

1min

Addressing the Masculinity Gap

21min

Understanding Gender Dynamics and Mental Health

12min

The Alarming Reality of Male Suicide and Its Underlying Causes

4min

The Need to Be Needed: Evolving Masculinity

27min

The Changing Dynamics of Marriage and Fatherhood

25min

Navigating Gender in Therapy

6min

10.

Redefining Masculinity in Modern Relationships

21min

11.

A Reflective Closing on Societal Challenges and Contributions

3min

500,000 men are dying by suicide, and 6% of men are unemployed, is masculinity in crisis? And what is the cure?

Richard Reeves is a Senior Fellow at the Brookings Institution and President of the American Institute for Boys and Men, an organisation that researches and addresses issues affecting men. He is also the author of the book, ‘Of Boys and Men’.

In this conversation, Richard and Steven discuss topics such as, the rising rates of male suicide rates, the health benefits of marriage for men, the toxic impact of Andrew Tate, and the relationship crisis among men.

(00:00) Intro

(01:23) Why Dedicating Your Career To Men's Issues

(03:53) What's Your Background?

(06:05) The Crazy Stats That Made You Research This Topic

(08:06) We're Going Through A Cultural Revolution

(12:31) We Need A New Way To Approach This

(17:11) Are Men And Women Differently?

(21:06) Men Take More Risks

(26:16) Unconscious Behaviours Of Men

(34:10) Suicide Is The Biggest Killer Of Men

(38:43) Why Is This Suicide Increasing?

(42:46) Why Do Humans Feel Like They Need To Be Needed?

(46:58) Why Men Feel Less Needed

(49:42) Does Retirement Kill You?

(54:42) We're Losing Connection In Our Modern Society

(57:41) The Dating Environment Has Changed

(01:05:22) Are Dating Apps Being Unfavourable To Men?

(01:09:40) Is Marriage In Decline?

(01:12:50) Births Are Increasing Outside Of Marriage

(01:13:55) Is Marriage Better For Women Or Men?

(01:15:58) Enforced Monogamy

(01:17:54) Why Andrew Tate Converted To Islam

(01:20:46) Women Economic Power

(01:22:55) What Do You Think About The Word Toxic Masculinity

(01:27:07) There Is A Friendship Male Recession

(01:31:37) Men Shed's Movement

(01:33:47) My Experience With Couples Therapy

(01:36:29) The Hard Times Of Going Through Couples Therapy

(01:40:24) How Masculinity Can Be Expressed

(01:47:41) What Advice You'd Give Your Children

(01:53:57) Using Our Voices To Make Men Be Heard

(02:01:21) The Last Guest Question

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Gender Expert: Men Are Emotionally Dependent On Women & We're Treating Them Like Malfunctioning Women! Richard Reeves

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

The Evolution of Men's Roles in Modern Society

The Importance of Initiating Conversations on Masculinity

The Significance of Feeling Needed in Life

Challenges Stemming from Changing Dating Environments

Understanding Men's Ancestral Patterns Through Partner Selection

Challenges in Online Dating and Gender Dynamics

The Changing Landscape of Marriage and Fatherhood

Reframing Toxic Masculinity and Gender Stereotypes

Promoting Real-life Male Role Models and Empathy

Defining Non-Toxic Masculinity

The Importance of Feeling Needed in the Human Experience

Engagement Through Action: Men Open Up in Context

Understanding Men's Emotional Vulnerability

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The Gender Expert: Men Are Emotionally Dependent On Women & We're Treating Them Like Malfunctioning Women! Richard Reeves

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Quick takeaways

Deep dives

The Evolution of Men's Roles in Modern Society

The Importance of Initiating Conversations on Masculinity

The Significance of Feeling Needed in Life

Challenges Stemming from Changing Dating Environments

Understanding Men's Ancestral Patterns Through Partner Selection

Challenges in Online Dating and Gender Dynamics

The Changing Landscape of Marriage and Fatherhood

Reframing Toxic Masculinity and Gender Stereotypes

Promoting Real-life Male Role Models and Empathy

Defining Non-Toxic Masculinity

The Importance of Feeling Needed in the Human Experience

Engagement Through Action: Men Open Up in Context

Understanding Men's Emotional Vulnerability

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