Life Kit F*** The Spark: The Science Of Finding A Partner
Feb 9, 2021
Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist at Hinge and author of How to Not Die Alone, shares insights on dating that challenge common misconceptions. She discusses the pitfalls of relying on initial chemistry and introduces the concept of 'intentional love.' Ury highlights three types of problematic daters and provides tailored strategies to help overcome their challenges. Emphasizing the value of a 'slow burn' approach, she advocates for genuine connections rather than superficial attraction, encouraging listeners to embrace a more thoughtful mindset in their dating lives.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Dating Blind Spots
- Logan Ury identifies three dating blind spots: the romanticizer, the maximizer, and the hesitator.
- These types struggle with unrealistic expectations about relationships, partners, or dating readiness.
Overcoming Blind Spots
- Romanticizers should adopt a "work-it-out" mindset and actively pursue love.
- Maximizers can apply the 37% rule, committing when they find someone as good or better than a past benchmark.
Advice for Hesitators
- Hesitators should embrace the "minimum viable product" mindset in dating.
- Start dating now; waiting for perfection leads to missed opportunities and growth.
