Host celebrates 300th episode and answers listener question about collecting gurus vs choosing teachers. Holding onto truth in times of transition and finding comfort in Psalm 23. Exploring unconventional spiritual practices and the power of playing a matching game on the New York Times Games app.
Collecting gurus involves seeking clarity from various sources, while seeking out teachers means committing to learn deeply from trusted individuals.
Holding onto truths from the Bible, such as the image of Jesus welcoming children, provides comfort and guidance during times of transition.
In supporting someone making a painful decision, it is important to be a friend, hold space for their journey, and explore unanswerable questions about suffering and God's role in it.
Deep dives
Distinguishing Between Gurus and Teachers
Miriam from Canada asked about the difference between collecting gurus and teachers. Emily explains that collecting gurus refers to seeking clarity in areas of life that feel less scary and more accessible, resulting in a frenzy of consuming advice from various sources. On the other hand, seeking out teachers with intention means committing to learn deeply from a few trusted individuals who can guide in the things that matter most. Emily emphasizes that the distinction depends on the individual's mindset and how the content they consume affects their focus and growth.
Holding on to Truths in Times of Transition
Rachel from Iowa asks Emily about the truths from the Bible that she holds onto during times of transition. Emily shares a few examples, including the image of Jesus welcoming and valuing children, even as grownups are called to become like little children in their faith. Emily also mentions the verse in John 6 where Simon Peter expresses unwavering belief in Jesus as the Holy One of God. Additionally, Emily finds comfort and guidance in the words of Psalm 23, particularly the affirmation that God is with her even in difficult times.
Walking Alongside Those Facing Painful Decisions
Brianna from Georgia seeks advice on how to support someone making a decision where every option results in pain. Emily suggests being a friend rather than a fixer, acknowledging the difficulty and heartbreak in those situations. She highlights the importance of holding space for the person's own journey, even if it doesn't align with one's own views or approaches. Additionally, Emily encourages exploring the unanswerable questions about suffering and God's role in it as an opportunity for personal spiritual growth and understanding.
Dreaming at the Midpoint of Life
Jeannie from Minnesota asks Emily about how to start dreaming together with her spouse at the midpoint of life when faced with the unknown. Emily suggests creating a safe space free from fear to explore possibilities. She also recommends listening to the feedback of their grown children who know them well and can offer valuable insights. Emily advises taking small steps and trying out ideas together, with the awareness that their dreams might evolve and change as they continue their journey.
Navigating High Expectations and Sharing Works in Progress
Eden from Alberta, Canada, asks Emily about dealing with high expectations for oneself and the challenge of sharing work that is still in progress. Emily explains the benefits of holding something closer until it's finished, allowing creative energy to be focused on the work itself. She suggests having a few trusted individuals to share ideas with, who can offer feedback without undermining the creative process. Emily also advises having a scripted response for those curious about one's work, allowing for a light and non-committal answer until the time feels right for sharing.
Unconventional Spiritual Practices
Monica from Oregon inquires about Emily's favorite unconventional spiritual practices. Emily shares her newfound love for a matching tiles game on the New York Times Games app, explaining how it becomes a grounding practice for her during tired or uncertain moments. She emphasizes that any activity can become a spiritual practice when done with an awareness of the presence of God and a focus on joy, peace, and kindness. Emily encourages listeners to explore unconventional practices that resonate with them and remind them of who they truly are.
In honor of the 300th episode of The Next Right Thing, I'm giving you the microphone to ask me your questions. I love hearing your voices whenever I can and I think this will be a lot of fun. I'll do my best to offer some solid responses, if not answers. Listen in.
