The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 209: No One is Coming to Save Us

Feb 18, 2025

Exploring the hard truths of personal change, the discussion emphasizes that relying on external forces for support often leads to frustration. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own agency in the journey toward healing and self-acceptance. The conversation touches on the complexities of vulnerability and the emotional challenges faced in relationships, while also highlighting the significance of personal accountability. Gratitude for community support underscores the importance of fostering self-love and growth.

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Self-reliance is essential for personal healing, as waiting for external help only perpetuates dependency and stagnation.

The societal obligation to support vulnerable individuals must be recognized, challenging the notion that change rests solely on the afflicted.

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The Reality of Self-Reliance

The episode discusses the sobering truth that no one is coming to save us, emphasizing the necessity of self-reliance in navigating personal challenges. This concept emerged from a reflection on the speaker's own therapeutic journey, where the realization became a pivotal moment. It highlights the importance of recognizing that while support from others can be helpful, ultimately, individuals must take responsibility for their own healing and growth. This shift in perspective is described as both liberating and challenging, as it prompts a move towards personal accountability.

Intro

2min

Confronting Vulnerability and the Illusion of Support

18min

Navigating the Complexities of Healing and Relationship Dynamics

9min

The Power of Self-Realization

8min

Embracing Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth

8min

It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.

I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.

Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better.

Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/saveus

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