The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 209: No One is Coming to Save Us

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Feb 18, 2025

Exploring the hard truths of personal change, the discussion emphasizes that relying on external forces for support often leads to frustration. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own agency in the journey toward healing and self-acceptance. The conversation touches on the complexities of vulnerability and the emotional challenges faced in relationships, while also highlighting the significance of personal accountability. Gratitude for community support underscores the importance of fostering self-love and growth.

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INSIGHT

Dependence and Love

Robyn Gobbel desires someone to take care of her in all life aspects except work.
This stems from an inner working model of feeling overwhelmed and believing love requires others' self-abandonment.

ANECDOTE

Longing for Care

Robyn Gobbel loved therapy and wished for constant care, wanting someone to alleviate her discomfort.
She even joked about simply wanting to exist in her therapist's presence.

INSIGHT

Desire for Others' Change

Robyn Gobbel's recurring therapeutic theme revolves around wanting others to change so she doesn't have to.
This has caused havoc in her important relationships.

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It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.

I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.

Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better.

Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/saveus

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