No Stupid Questions 27. How Should You Ask for Forgiveness?
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Jun 22, 2025 The art of asking for forgiveness takes center stage, highlighting how sincerity is key to effective apologies. Delve into the transformative power of gratitude letters and their impact on personal relationships. Explore cultural perspectives on forgiveness, particularly during Yom Kippur, and discover practical approaches to admit faults in everyday life. The podcast also tackles the complexities of behavior change with insights from public health strategies, emphasizing that understanding our actions can lead to meaningful personal growth.
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John List's Uber Apology Anecdote
- Economist John List had a bad Uber trip that led him to research how to optimize apologies.
- Their findings included sincerity, acknowledging wrongness, commitment to improve, and making the apology costly to the apologizer.
Apology Must Be Costly
- A good apology must be sincere, acknowledge the wrong, and commit to improvement.
- The apology also needs to be costly to show real commitment to change, beyond just words.
Relationship Apology Advice
- When apologizing in a relationship, sincerely acknowledge responsibility and commit to change.
- Show commitment by offering something costly or meaningful related to the other person.
