Episode 42: The Power of Pen & Pause

Hey friends, welcome back to The Journaling Room! I’m Kendall, and I’m so glad you’re here. Today’s episode might just shift the way you handle conflict, disappointment, and emotionally charged moment.

It’s all about using a simple practice I call pen and pause to keep your peace, protect your relationships, and honor the person you actually want to be, not just the emotion you’re feeling in the moment.

I know what it’s like to say something in a heat-of-the-moment reaction—and regret it later. But there is another way. Let’s talk about it.

Here’s how you can try this for yourself.

Next time your body starts buzzing with conflict or a heavy emotion, use these prompts:

1. What am I feeling in my body right now? Where do I feel it?
2. What’s the actual circumstance—and what story am I adding to it?
3. What am I afraid is true about me or them in this moment?
4. What do I wish they would do? What do I need to take care of myself regardless of what they choose?
5. What do I want to be true of me by the end of this conversation?
6. If love—not fear—was guiding me, how would I proceed?

These questions help you shift out of emotional reactivity and into emotional ownership. They create space to act from your values, not your wounds.

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