28: Second Chances – What to Do When Something Comes Around Again

Have you ever had something come back around like a romantic relationship, friendship, job or career path that you thought was over? Or perhaps you’ve gotten a second chance with a different situation or cast of characters.  Like a new relationship after a divorce or a job after being laid off. Or even your health after getting to the other side of an illness. Second chances do happen for all of us and when they do, it is important that we apply the lessons we learned the first time around. Many of us are great about doing this because we are intentional about not wanting to repeat the same kind of what we’d call mistakes again.  We approach second chances with gratitude and excitement. But second chances can also produce fear.  What is fascinating (and rather sad) about us humans sometimes is that the closer what we truly wants gets, the more we attempt to push it away.  Obviously this is not a conscious thing we do, the saboteur is very sneaky…yet powerful. And the reason we sabotage is because we have not fully healed the core issues and misunderstandings around love and worthiness.    You’ll listen to an example of this with today’s caller Jenny who has gotten a second chance in regards to a romantic relationship.  She would love to just feel grateful and excited, yet what she is experiencing is a roller coaster of emotions.  The time is now for her to accept that she is truly worthy of love. She can open her heart, expose her vulnerability and bloom into her feminine aspect or she can go to her protected, solitary place. Being honest and vulnerable in her relationships will allow her to let someone special in without feeling fear.  Coaching Tip from this call: Focus should be on learning and not on the outcome. Dropping our ego and adopting a learning oriented approach to life serves both client and coach, equally. I invite all of you to join me in September for an my retreat in magical Bali will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the finest conversations with like-minded women. I will also be available for personal sessions. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities on September 16-22.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Have you recently gotten a second chance at something and if so, how are you approaching it? ● Is there someone or something you would like a second chance with? ● Do you truly know you are deserving of love and/or success? ● Do you get anxious about a relationship, and experience a roller coaster of emotions? ● Ladies, do you live in your in your masculine energy a lot? Gentlemen, do you have trouble connecting to a woman who experiences a roller coaster of emotions?   Jenny’s Question: Jenny wants to know why she reacted like she did when a nice guy wanted to be her boyfriend and what tools she can use to stay in the present and to drop the anxiety.   Jenny’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She doesn’t feel worthy of love ● She is being vulnerable and it feels uncomfortable ● She may feel like a fraud when accepting love ● She can feel safe receiving love   How to get over it and on with it: ● Focus on the shared visions and values ● Recognize self-worth ● Talk to anxiety in a feminine, loving way ● Shift awareness and let love in   Tools and Takeaways: ● Stay in the present and be grateful for all you have ● Think of the ways you can be more vulnerable ● Practice saying “Thank You” ● Check out Men Exposed, Alison Armstrong and David Deita   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (Including my favorites, Alpha Brain and MCT Oil)   Resources: Christine Hassler Men Exposed Allison Armstrong The Queen’s Code David Dieta @christinhassler on twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com