

Why Your Partner's Sexual Past Is Haunting Your Present
12 snips Sep 19, 2025
This episode dives deep into the impact of partners' sexual pasts on current relationships. A caller grapples with intrusive thoughts, while another explores how daydreams might lead to premature ejaculation. The conversation shifts to practical tips for finding a third partner for threesomes, stressing the importance of setting boundaries. Moreover, the discussion normalizes the use of toys for orgasms and tackles emotional obstacles in intimacy, offering strategies to enhance solo pleasure during tough times.
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Modern Sexual Norms Shift With Age
- Generational shifts mean more people, especially women, explore sex and partners later in life.
- Emily frames this as learning one's body and normalizing greater sexual experience.
Set Boundaries Around Past Stories
- Tell your partner that hearing detailed past sexual stories upsets you and ask them to limit those disclosures.
- Replace intrusive thoughts with positive memories and a phone note list of what you love about them.
Replace Intrusive Thoughts Proactively
- Practice cognitive replacement when intrusive thoughts arise by focusing on positive images and future plans.
- Keep a list of cherished moments in your phone to quickly shift your attention.