Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-Improvement 3677: Fish don't know they're in water AND What do you hate not doing? by Derek Sivers on Chasing Goals
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Jul 23, 2025 Derek Sivers shares thought-provoking insights on the paradox of chasing goals, suggesting that sometimes we receive what we want when we stop chasing it. He offers a refreshing perspective on dislike, arguing that not enjoying something doesn't mean you need to harbor hate toward it. The discussion emphasizes the importance of cultural perceptions and personal values, urging listeners to reflect on what truly fulfills them. This contemplation leads to a liberating realization: it's okay to let go of struggles that don't align with our interests.
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Fish Don't Know They're in Water
- We are like fish unaware of the water around us, meaning we don't see our own culture because it's all we know.
- Recognizing this helps us understand behaviors that seem strange from outside our own cultural lens.
Derek's Singapore Culture Experience
- Derek shared how in a Singapore class, only one student wanted to start a business, unlike California where all would raise their hands.
- He also noted cultural differences like Singaporeans living with parents much longer, contrasting American individualism.
What Do You Hate Not Doing?
- Instead of asking what you love, ask what you hate not doing to find what truly matters.
- This helps identify activities that cause depression or annoyance when neglected, revealing real priorities.