Comedian Rachel Samples shares her first lesbian relationship with her former college roommate, discussing the challenges of coming out. They eventually break up, highlighting the difficulties of WLW breakups. The episode emphasizes the importance of facing feelings, spending time alone, and trying mushrooms. The conversation is filled with humor and insights on love and personal growth.
Navigating a clandestine relationship in a sorority setting highlights the challenges of secrecy and balancing social obligations.
Coming out leads to relief and support, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and personal growth.
Deep dives
They share memories of hiding sorority relationships
Talking about their experiences in a sorority, the speaker recalls joining a sorority after feeling left out by friends on weekends and expresses frustration over friends' hookups with frat guys. These tensions arose before the speaker eventually joined a sorority. The discussion delves into the speaker's and their friend's connection, intertwined with the challenges of balancing relationships and social obligations within a sorority setting.
The emotional rollercoaster of a secret closeted relationship
The speaker reveals details of a clandestine relationship that extended over a year and a half, marked by secrecy and hidden hookups. They recount the emotional toll of living a double life, attending formal events with date partners for appearances, and the challenges of navigating a relationship while remaining closeted. The discussion touches on the impact of maintaining secrecy and the complexities of presenting as single while dating secretly.
Lessons on coming out and self-discovery
The speaker reflects on the process of coming out to close friends and family, highlighting the relief and support experienced after revealing their authentic self. They share personal insights into the emotional journey of self-discovery and the challenges of maintaining authenticity within social circles. The conversation also addresses coping mechanisms during emotional upheavals and emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and leaning into personal growth.
Navigating expectations and finding joy
The speaker explores their tendency to set unrealistic expectations for others, leading to disappointments and frustrations. They discuss the advice received from therapy about accepting people's true nature and managing expectations accordingly. Additionally, the focus shifts to finding joy in life beyond regimented routines and external validations, aiming to rediscover personal fulfillment and authenticity outside of prescribed norms and structures.
Comedian/Creator Rachel Samples is on the pod this week and WHAT A TREAT IT IS! Rachel shares the story of her first lesbian relationship with... wait for it... her former college roommate (and sorority president!) The two kept their relationship hidden for a year before finally coming out. Spoiler Alert: They eventually break up, but Rachel spits some hard facts on why the first WLW breakup is the hardest. This episode will lovingly remind you that we shouldn't use distractions and stay busy to avoid our feelings. So let's spend time alone! And take mushrooms!
Ps. Get ready for a top tier U-Haul U-Ghost!!!!!!!!!!!!!