Modern Wisdom #1026 - Alison Armstrong - How to Treat Men Better
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Nov 29, 2025 
Alison Armstrong, a renowned relationship coach and author, delves into the complexities of male-female dynamics. She explores how rising gender expectations can affect men's identities, often leading to feelings of emasculation. Alison emphasizes the power of appreciation and recognition, revealing how these can improve relationships. She also discusses the significance of receptivity, the qualities men seek in partners, and the importance of understanding men's strengths. Her insights aim to foster healthier partnerships through mutual respect and support.
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Paradigms Determine Relationship Outcomes
- Paradigms shape what is possible and what is impossible in relationships.
- Alison Armstrong urges swapping paradigms to get different results when current approaches fail.
Women’s Safety Monitoring Drives Pleasing
- Women are wired to monitor safety and to avoid displeasing others from early development.
- That background vigilance drives intense attention to preferences and emotional cues in partners.
Men Prioritise Accomplishment Over Pleasing
- Being pleased is low on a man's priority list compared with empowerment and admiration.
- Alison explains men's drive centers on accomplishment before small pleasures like being pleased.
