236. Is Capitalism Ruining My Sex Life? With Queer Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

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Jun 2, 2025

Casey Tanner, an AASECT certified sex therapist and author of "Feel It All," explores the intersections of capitalism, sexual intimacy, and identity. They discuss how productivity obsession and purity culture influence not just finances but also personal relationships with sex. The conversation dives into the impact of societal pressures and past traumas on intimacy, advocating for open dialogue about gender dynamics and pleasure. Listeners are invited to reflect on their beliefs while learning strategies to revive excitement in long-term relationships.

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ANECDOTE

Casey's Evangelical to Queer Journey

Casey Tanner shared their journey from evangelical youth leader to queer sex therapist.
This transformation came after personal struggles with reconciling queerness and religious trauma.

INSIGHT

Racism Within Purity Culture

Purity culture is inherently racist and sustains whiteness as the standard of purity.
It simultaneously desexualizes and oversexualizes people, causing self-gaslighting around desires.

INSIGHT

Capitalism Opposes Pleasure

Capitalism demands productivity, which conflicts with pleasure in work and sex.
Obsession with sexual productivity mirrors workplace performance pressures, limiting true pleasure.

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Let’s talk about sex baby! If you've ever wondered why sex, pleasure, and intimacy often come with guilt—you're not alone. In this episode of Financial Feminist, I’m joined by Casey Tanner, AASECT certified sex therapist and author of the book “Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex.” We dive deep into how capitalism, purity culture, and gender norms are shaping not just your finances—but your sex life too. Yep––capitalism might be in your bedroom. Casey and I unpack how productivity obsession, religious trauma, and internalized shame creep into our most intimate moments. We explore how queerness, pleasure, money, and identity intersect—and how healing from societal conditioning around sex can help us build better relationships with ourselves and others. Whether you're partnered, solo, questioning, or just curious, this conversation will blow your mind and soothe your nervous system all at once.

TW: Sexual assault , mention of suicide, eating disorders

Casey’s links:

Queer Sex Therapy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/

The Expansive Group’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/

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