Why You Should Compare Yourself to Other People (Episode 5)
Jan 10, 2023
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The podcast discusses the benefits and dangers of comparing oneself to others, the impact of San Francisco on personal aspirations, and the importance of choosing the right role models. They also explore visualization exercises and emphasize the importance of comparing oneself for genuine personal growth.
Comparing oneself to others can serve as a form of motivation and role modeling, as long as we compare ourselves to the right people and have good values to be motivated by.
Comparing oneself to others can be a double-edged sword; it is important to be mindful of why we are making these comparisons, ensure that the people they compare themselves to uphold values that align with their own, and be realistic when setting achievable goals.
Deep dives
Comparing oneself to others serves as motivation and role modeling
Comparing oneself to others can serve as a form of motivation and role modeling. By comparing our own achievements and results with those of others, we can gain inspiration and emulate their successes. For example, Julius Caesar compared himself to Alexander the Great and felt motivated to achieve more. This practice can be helpful as long as we compare ourselves to the right people and have good values to be motivated by.
Be cautious of comparing oneself to others for the wrong reasons
Comparing oneself to others can be a double-edged sword. It is important to be mindful of why we are making these comparisons. For instance, comparing oneself to someone solely based on material possessions or societal approval can lead to a distortion of values. One should ensure that the people they compare themselves to uphold values that align with their own and are worthwhile. Additionally, it is crucial to be realistic when comparing oneself to others and set achievable goals.
Choosing the right role models is essential
When selecting role models to compare oneself to, it is vital to choose wisely. Identifying individuals who possess traits, virtues, or accomplishments that align with our own values can provide valuable guidance. For example, one can look to family members, historical figures, or even fictional characters as role models. By analyzing their thoughts, decisions, and actions, we can gain insights and learn from their experiences. Selecting the right role models positively impacts our growth and development.
Comparison as a tool for self-improvement
Comparing oneself to others can be likened to a tool for self-improvement. However, it is crucial to approach this practice with realistic expectations and a focus on actionable steps rather than pure fantasy. Visualizing the actions and behaviors of role models in a detailed and realistic manner can enhance the effectiveness of this exercise. Furthermore, it is important to remember that self-improvement requires effort and may involve discomfort, similar to the challenging process of receiving treatment in a hospital.
In this episode, Caleb and Michael discuss why you should compare yourself to other people – but not just anyone.
They discussion focuses on Caleb's recent article: You Should Compare Yourself to Other People
Stoa Conversations is Caleb Ontiveros and Michael Tremblay’s podcast on Stoic theory and practice.
Caleb and Michael work together on the Stoa app. Stoa is designed to help you build resilience and focus on what matters. It combines the practical philosophy of Stoicism with modern techniques and meditation.
Caleb Ontiveros has a background in academic philosophy (MA) and startups. His favorite Stoic is Marcus Aurelius. Follow him here: https://twitter.com/calebmontiveros
Michael Tremblay also has a background in academic philosophy (PhD) where he focused on Epictetus. He is also a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. His favorite Stoic is Epictetus. Follow him here: https://twitter.com/_MikeTremblay
Thank you to Michael Levy for graciously letting us use his music in the conversations: https://ancientlyre.com/
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