Raising Good Humans S2 Ep 31: Supporting Tots to Teens During Holiday Stress and Excitement
Dec 10, 2021
Claire Lerner, a licensed clinical social worker and child development expert, joins Dr. Aliza to tackle holiday stress for kids. They discuss how holiday excitement can lead to meltdowns and the importance of setting realistic expectations. Claire emphasizes preparing sensitive children with visuals and pre-briefing relatives on their needs. The duo shares valuable tools like breath work and alternative ways to show appreciation, underscoring the significance of validating teenagers' feelings while establishing boundaries.
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Excitement Can Be Stressful For Kids
- Excitement during the holidays is itself stressful for many kids and can reduce their self-regulation.
- Claire Lerner urges parents to lower expectations and plan for kids needing extra time and support.
Parental Anxiety Increases Child Stress
- Parents' anxiety and warnings can backfire and increase child stress and misbehavior.
- Claire Lerner highlights that telling kids to behave because you're worried makes the behavior more likely.
Hanukkah Frenzy Overstimulated A Child
- Claire Lerner shared a consult about a Hanukkah routine that overstimulated a usually adaptable child into acting like a 'monster.'
- The child's bedtime changes, extra gifts, and routines led to hyper-arousal and difficult behavior.
