Nuance Needed 79: You're Not Too Busy to Have People Over with Chelsea Fagan
Oct 21, 2025
58:18
Are you really too busy to see your friends, or have we gotten too comfortable being lonely? Sam sits down with Chelsea Fagan (author of "Having People Over"), to dissect why hosting a dinner party feels harder than ordering $50 of DoorDash.
In conversation, we tackle:
* Why social media is the "methadone of community"—just enough connection to keep you hooked but never satisfied
* How being "the person who never states a preference" doesn't make you easygoing, it makes you burdensome
* Why your ADHD isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card for being a bad friend
* Why planning a party is the good kind of stress
* The power of being the facilitator (even when no one else reciprocates)
* What Sam learned from being a caregiver to her severely disabled brother about getting outside yourself
* Why accepting that sometimes love isn't reciprocated is the price of being a loving person
Chelsea Fagan is the founder of The Financial Diet and author of "Having People Over" (out October 21st). Find her @faganchelsea on Instagram and TikTok.
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To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.
Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!
In conversation, we tackle:
* Why social media is the "methadone of community"—just enough connection to keep you hooked but never satisfied
* How being "the person who never states a preference" doesn't make you easygoing, it makes you burdensome
* Why your ADHD isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card for being a bad friend
* Why planning a party is the good kind of stress
* The power of being the facilitator (even when no one else reciprocates)
* What Sam learned from being a caregiver to her severely disabled brother about getting outside yourself
* Why accepting that sometimes love isn't reciprocated is the price of being a loving person
Chelsea Fagan is the founder of The Financial Diet and author of "Having People Over" (out October 21st). Find her @faganchelsea on Instagram and TikTok.
If you’d like to support the show one of the best things you can do is leave us a review and share the pod! THANK YOU! We have some incredible BONUS episodes on our SUBSTACK! nuanceneeded.substack.com
To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.
Want to join the conversation? You can email us podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!