Episode 262: How To Get The Sex Life You Want

There’s the sex life you have, and then there’s the sex life you want. So how do you actually get the one that you want? This is something a lot of people struggle with, so that’s what we’re going to be talking about today. We’re going to explore tips for changing the relationship we have with ourselves, tips for changing the relationships we have with other people, as well as ways of simply making sex more fun.

My guest is Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.’s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love.

Some of the topics we explore include:

• What is the “27 things” exercise, and how can it help you to get clarity on what you want from your intimate life?
• How can we better manage body image issues that are hindering desire for and enjoyment of sex?
• How can we avoid hopping on the “relationship escalator” with a partner who might not be meeting our needs?
• What are some ways to make planned sex good sex?
• How can we bring the fun back into sex?

Make sure to check out Rena’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology

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