The Dr. John Delony Show I’ve Been in a Secret Work Affair for 9 Years
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Oct 29, 2025 In a deep dive into complex emotions, Alan shares his nine-year workplace affair and wrestles with the fallout on his marriage. As he confronts the reality of his choices, host John Delony offers critical insights on accountability and integrity. Meanwhile, Charity, a critical care nurse, grapples with her mental health amid financial woes and her daughter's crisis. Together, they explore the challenging balance between healing and providing, emphasizing that prioritizing mental well-being is crucial for stability in all areas of life.
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Parenting Stress Isn’t An Excuse For Affairs
- John Delony framed marital stress with kids as normal and expected, not an excuse for infidelity.
- He emphasized agency: poor choices remain choices even amid marital pain.
Stop, Disclose, And Accept Consequences
- Stop the affair immediately, tell your wife everything, and resign or remove yourself from the work relationship to act with integrity.
- Accept that legal, business, and marital consequences may follow but doing the right thing is necessary.
Schedule Help For Your Wife
- Make counseling appointments and secure short, incremental time away for your spouse to rebuild trust in caregivers.
- If resistance exists, schedule appointments yourself and present them as your need to be better.
