Where Do We Go From Here? What We Can Learn from a Somatic Sexologist
In this episode of Where Do We Go From Here?, Jessica sits down with somatic sexologist Lydia Adéla to explore how embodiment, safety, and self-awareness can transform our experience of sexuality.
Lydia shares her journey from believing she was "broken" and unable to feel pleasure, to becoming a practitioner who helps others reconnect to their bodies and experience intimacy without shame. Together, Jessica and Lydia unpack how religious conditioning, purity culture, and unrealistic media portrayals shape our sexual disconnection—and how we can begin to heal.
This is a powerful and grounding conversation for anyone learning to listen to their body again and move from performance to presence.
In this episode:
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Why pleasure is a learnable skill and not something we're "born good at"
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How shame, modesty culture, and disembodiment block arousal and connection
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The role of safety, breath, and sensory awareness in rediscovering pleasure
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Why orgasm isn't the end goal—and how slowing down brings deeper intimacy
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What somatic sexology and body-based healing can teach us about faith, freedom, and love
Resources Mentioned:
- Redeeming Sex by Debra Hirsch
Keywords: Lydia Adéla, somatic sexology, embodiment, sexual shame, purity culture, Christian sexuality, faith and the body, orgasm gap, consent, pleasure education, sexual healing, women and faith, Jessica Vanderwyngaard