In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment.

We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture.

This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect.

Show Notes:

00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play

02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission

04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens

07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths

12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like

16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training

18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink

22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey

25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces

30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety

32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side

This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries.

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