Learn how to go from casual to committed in dating by setting high standards. Discover the importance of communicating worthiness and achieving the 'bliss point'. Find out how to effectively communicate your standards in dating. Explore the secrets of building a strong relationship based on standards and deep attraction.
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Having and communicating high standards is key to finding a genuine committed relationship, as it attracts the best behavior in others and builds lasting attraction.
To effectively communicate standards, one should find the bliss point balance between being assertive and affectionate, ensuring that messages convey desire for equal effort and need for clarity while maintaining playfulness.
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The Importance of Having and Communicating Standards
In today's dating culture, many women are tired of mixed messages and meaningless hookups. The key to finding a genuine committed relationship lies in having and communicating high standards. Often, people have high standards for superficial qualities like looks or charisma, while overlooking more important factors like kindness and consistency. While it's important not to lower standards, it's also crucial to give people a chance initially and then narrow down the choices for a real relationship. Maintaining standards is attractive and brings out the best behavior in others, while dropping standards leads to negative dynamics. Attraction is built on respect, and it's essential to have standards and communicate them effectively.
The Art of Communicating Standards
Having standards is not enough; one must also know how to communicate them. Similar to finding the bliss point in food, communication requires finding the right balance between being assertive and affectionate. For example, when faced with an indecisive date planner, a bliss point response could be encouraging them to make the decision while adding a playful tone. In the case of someone showing laziness in making an effort to meet, a bliss point message can call them out playfully while communicating the desire for equal effort. Similarly, when a date is not clearly confirmed, a bliss point message can express the need for clarity while conveying that one has other activities if the plans do not materialize. These messages may not guarantee immediate results, but they lay the foundation for long-term attraction and stronger connections.
The Power of Deep Attraction and Building a Real Relationship
Two secrets to building a real relationship are having standards and deep attraction. Deep attraction goes beyond respect and stems from a unique connection that makes someone irreplaceable. Being multi-dimensional and showing various aspects of oneself adds complexity and richness to the attraction. Enduring desire is also crucial to keep a relationship alive. Understanding the importance of these two secrets ensures that one progresses from the early stages of a connection to building a lasting and fulfilling relationship. Additionally, pre-ordering the book Love Life grants access to the screening of the Love Mids movie on December 9th.
What’s the best way to go from casual to committed when you’re dating someone? There are two important things to remember here: • Our standards are a HUGE influence on someone’s decision to commit. • We’re more likely to drop our standards when we really like someone. So how do you show your standards in a confident way (without seeming demanding or needy)? In today’s episode, I share the best advice I’ve given on this topic through the years to raise your value in their eyes and build lasting attraction. Don’t miss it! ►► FREE Video Training: "Dating With Results" → http://www.DatingWithResults.com
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