523 - How do I cultivate polyamorous community? Listener Q&A
Apr 1, 2025
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In this lively discussion, the hosts tackle listener questions about building local polyamory communities, emphasizing the need for clear communication and inclusive environments. They explore coping with feelings of guilt and missing non-nesting partners, offering practical strategies to navigate these complex emotions. The conversation also covers the dynamic nature of new relationships and the significance of emotional honesty, encouraging vulnerability and connection among listeners eager to cultivate connections.
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Quick takeaways
Successful local polyamory meetups require clear communication about their purpose and strategies to make newcomers feel welcomed and engaged.
Navigating feelings of guilt in non-monogamous relationships involves open dialogue and trusting partners' reassurances while addressing external influences.
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Audiobook Release and Communication Tools
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Creating Local Polyamory Meetups
Organizing local polyamory meetups can be challenging, especially in areas lacking existing communities. Strategies include reaching out to related groups such as kink events or LGBTQ centers to find potential attendees. Clear communication about the purpose of the meetup is crucial, as social expectations vary greatly among participants looking for either connection or discussion. Ensuring that newcomers feel welcome, such as designating a 'social fairy' to introduce them, can improve comfort levels and foster community engagement.
Navigating Guilt in Non-Monogamous Relationships
Experiencing guilt when transitioning to a non-monogamous relationship is common, particularly when one partner feels they are struggling. It's essential to communicate openly about emotions and check in regularly with the original partner while fostering an environment where negative feelings can be safely expressed. This situation may be complicated further by external influences, such as the opinions of friends, who could lack understanding of the complexities of non-monogamy. It’s vital to trust the partner's reassurances about their feelings while continuing to explore the relationship dynamics together.
Coping with Longing in New Relationships
Missing a non-nesting partner during the exhilarating phase of New Relationship Energy (NRE) can evoke a mix of joy and sadness. Embracing the feelings of longing can be beneficial, as they often signify depth of feeling and connection. Engaging in activities that foster physical well-being, such as exercise, may help redirect some of that emotional energy. Additionally, finding joy in platonic relationships or social activities can alleviate the intensity of yearning, providing a balanced perspective as one navigates through the complexities of loving multiple partners.
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