Why You Become Triggered by Family During the Holidays

Nov 26, 2025

Ever wonder why family gatherings can drag us back into old habits? This discussion reveals how familiar sights and sounds activate emotional pathways we thought were dormant. You'll discover the science behind these triggers, including brain imaging insights showing how our reactions shift. Learn practical strategies like a 3-step Holiday Grounding Plan and Neurocycle techniques to stay present and avoid emotional regression. Embrace the holidays with tools to manage triggers and thrive, not just survive!

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INSIGHT

Childhood Cues Trigger Old Brain Networks

Familiar childhood cues can reactivate dormant emotional brain networks within seconds.
This causes adult reasoning to dip while limbic-driven reactions take over.

ANECDOTE

Client Reverted To Teen 'Keep The Peace' Mode

One client was decisive at work but reverted to smiling and nodding at her parents' table.
Her teenage 'keep the peace' network activated within five minutes of arriving.

INSIGHT

Brain Scans Explain Holiday Regression

fMRI studies show childhood homes can increase amygdala activity by ~40% and reduce prefrontal activity.
That neural shift explains why reasoning and self-control momentarily weaken.

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Have you ever walked into your family home for the holidays and felt yourself slipping back into old patterns—people-pleasing, shutting down, overreacting—even when you thought you’d grown past them? It’s not just psychological—it’s neurological.

In this episode, I break down the science behind why holiday visits activate dormant emotional pathways and how to stay anchored in your present identity. You’ll learn practical tools to interrupt old scripts and keep control of your mind, even when the environment tries to pull you back.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

✅ Why childhood environments trigger survival patterns in adulthood

✅ How familiar voices, smells, and rooms activate your limbic system

✅ The 3-step Holiday Grounding Plan to avoid emotional regression

✅ Simple Neurocycle® strategies to keep you in control before, during, and after visits

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