Rena Malik, MD Podcast: Optimizing Health, Sex & Relationships with Science Backed Tips from Leading Experts Why Cuddling After Sex Matters [And How It Bonds Couples]
Jul 25, 2025
In this discussion, Dr. Jim Pfaus, a renowned neuroscientist from Charles University, dives into the science of sexual attraction and bonding. He explains how early sexual experiences shape preferences and outlines the roles of dopamine and oxytocin in relationships. The conversation also touches on modern hookup culture's effects on emotional ties and the significance of cuddling in enhancing intimacy. Pfaus presents fascinating insights into how shared physical experiences deepen bonds, highlighting the neurochemistry behind our connections.
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Brain's Role in Sexual Attraction
- Sexual attraction involves complex brain processes moving from distant perception to interactive behavior.
- Dopamine motivates pursuit and social skills regulate approach to avoid rejection, shaping individual attraction templates.
First Sex Experiences Shape Desire
- First pleasurable sexual experiences imprint the brain's love map and shape future preferences.
- Negative early experiences can reduce desire and distort the interpretation of later sexual encounters.
Heal Desire Through Self-Pleasure
- Overcome bad sexual experiences by exploring and enjoying self-pleasure to heal and reprogram desire.
- Breaking old negative scripts enables developing new positive sexual habits and increasing enjoyment.