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MATING CRISIS: The Biggest Problems Keeping Men & Women SINGLE... | Stephan Speaks
Feb 21, 2023
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- Healing past traumas and emotional burdens is crucial before entering a relationship for men.
- Financial stability, not wealth, is essential for building a healthy relationship.
- Avoid power imbalances by addressing control issues and insecurities in relationships.
- Unresolved emotional baggage can sabotage relationships and prevent genuine love acceptance.
- Demonstrating strong character and financial stability fosters mutual respect in relationships.
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Healing and Emotional Stability
It is important for men to process and heal from past traumas and emotional burdens as a foundational step before entering a relationship. Understanding the difference between vulnerability and emotional instability is crucial to building a healthy connection. Men need to release negative energy and be emotionally stable to be capable of reciprocating love and security in a partnership.
Financial Stability and Independence
A man's financial stability is significant before committing to a relationship, not necessarily wealth but the ability to support oneself. Without financial stability, a man may become reliant on his partner, leading to a lack of respect and possibly control issues, affecting the dynamics of the relationship negatively.
Relationship Dynamics and Power Struggles
When a woman holds the role of 'making' a man through financial support or control, it can lead to power imbalances and insecurities. Such dynamics may arise from a need for control and can result in the woman feeling threatened when the man gains financial stability. Addressing underlying insecurities and control issues is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship.
The Impact of Emotional Baggage on Relationships
Previous emotional baggage can sabotage relationships even when the right partner is present, leading to suspicions of ulterior motives or waiting for the relationship to turn negative. Unhealed trauma can prevent individuals from accepting genuine love and positive experiences, creating a cycle of self-sabotage and fear of long-term happiness.
Importance of Financial Stability and Character in Relationships
Being financially stable and demonstrating strong character can create a foundation of respect in relationships. This stability can make it easier for a partner to view you as reliable and capable, enhancing mutual respect and a healthy dynamic where both individuals contribute positively.
The Role of Leadership and Emotional Understanding in Relationships
Effective leadership in relationships involves considering your partner's perspective and valuing their emotions. A smart leader listens, considers others’ viewpoints, and takes decisive actions while maintaining a balanced approach. Understanding emotional depth aids in mutual understanding and strengthens the relationship.
Approaches to Finding Partners and Communication Skills
When seeking partners, focus on authentic communication and showcasing personal value. Emphasize the ability to engage in meaningful conversations and connect emotionally. Presenting genuine traits and active listening can be more appealing than superficial characteristics, creating a strong foundation for building relationships.
Presenting your value on dating apps
When presenting your value on a dating app, it is crucial to communicate your intent for a serious relationship clearly. Demonstrating the willingness to engage in meaningful conversations and showing an openness to commitment can set you apart from others on the platform. Putting effort into your profile, being genuine, and expressing your intent for a long-term relationship can increase your chances of success. Moving from app interactions to in-person meetings efficiently is important, as prolonged online conversations can lead to loss of interest.
Understanding relationships, marriage, and intuition
The significance of children in relationships is explored, highlighting that while they can enhance a partnership, having kids is not a mandatory component for a fulfilling relationship. The discussion extends to the importance of individuals accepting different viewpoints on marriage and embracing the idea of striving for successful marriages. Additionally, the concept of intuition is dissected, emphasizing that intuition is a trained skill rather than an inherent trait, developed through patterns and experiences. The conversation delves into the dynamics of successful marriages, emphasizing mutual respect, fair agreements, and maintaining one's integrity throughout the relationship.
Looking for a high value man or woman will have you feeling more detached from yourself and reality than figuring out your life’s purpose.
Generally speaking there are natural occurring differences between men and women that do not have to be viewed as adversarial or problematic. In today’s social media influenced dating scene, there are so many toxic ideals floating around that dating and finding relationships are more difficult than they ever were before.
Traditional male roles are being attacked for being toxically unacceptable by today’s internet standards and both men and women are feeling pressure to live up to standards that a narrow percentage of people will actually fit into. Stephan Speaks is joining Tom to address a very hard conversation.
Stephan Speaks has garnered hundreds of millions of views from his own YouTube presence as a relationship expert focused on helping men and women create healthier happier relationships aligned with the essence of their true self. He’s not shy about calling out behaviors and flawed thinking from men and women that make finding authentic connection difficult.
Declining testosterone levels in young men, porn, and an unhealed broken subset of men (and women) with large online platforms are just a few of the issues of a much bigger problem that Stephan is speaking to in this episode.
Let’s talk about why you’re being shamed for not wanting the internet standard and how the Andrew Tate phenomenon and others like that for men and women are destroying your potential for love, family and real connection.
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