792. Why You’re Still Stuck in Old Patterns: The 3 Beliefs Secretly Running Your Life

Aug 28, 2025

Join spiritual teacher Aaron Abke, author of 'The Three Beliefs of Ego,' as he shares his transformative journey through spiritual awakening and the dark night of the soul. He reveals why traditional self-improvement methods often miss the mark and explores how understanding your emotional guidance system can free you from ego-driven patterns. Discover why spiritual burnout is common, the importance of surrendering to God, and practical tips for navigating relationships and manifestation, all while embracing life’s unexpected flow.

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ANECDOTE

Balcony Awakening That Changed Everything

Aaron Abke recounts a spontaneous balcony awakening while listening to Eckhart Tolle that shifted him into two weeks of unbroken blissful consciousness.
Losing that state plunged him into a dark night that motivated his deep study and the framing of the three ego beliefs.

INSIGHT

Ego Is An Activity Not An Enemy

Aaron defines ego as an activity: the mental act of identifying with form rather than a fixed entity to be destroyed.
This reframes practice: you can't 'kill' ego, you can only stop engaging its activity.

ADVICE

Practice Giving And Receiving Daily

Practice relationship as giving and receiving: give your best and be willing to receive life's flow without resistance.
Do the next right thing, then accept outcomes and ask God what the will is to let aligned opportunities appear.

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In this episode, Krista sits down with spiritual teacher + author Aaron Abke to explore the sometimes messy journey of being human. Aaron shares the story of his spiritual awakening, including his dark night of the soul + the life-changing realization that set him on his path.

Aaron + Krista discuss why many traditional approaches to manifestation + self-improvement fall short. Aaron also shares how true freedom begins with understanding your emotional guidance system + breaking free from ego-driven patterns of lack, attachment, and control.

If you’ve ever found yourself chasing outcomes, struggling to receive, or feeling stuck despite all your spiritual work, this is for you. With the release of his new book, The Three Beliefs of Ego, Aaron reveals how your beliefs block your manifestations—and how to finally move past them.

We also talk about:

Why spiritual burnout is so real
What sadness is trying to tell you
How to actually surrender to God
Manifestation hacks for the feminine
Outgrowing relationships (friendships & dating)
Why you can’t ever get rid of the ego
Giving + receiving vs. taking + keeping
Managing ego in dating + relationships
Daily practices to train your mind for freedom

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Order his book → The Three Beliefs of Ego
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