ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show 893: When Good Intentions Aren't Enough
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Jan 6, 2026 Explore the common struggle couples face between wanting change and actually making it happen. Discover the six pillars of intimacy that can rekindle connections. Uncover the reasons why good intentions often fall flat without actionable systems in place. Learn the importance of focusing on small, consistent habits for lasting intimacy. Hear tips on assessing emotional readiness, overcoming personal resistance, and why seeking coaching can be beneficial. Prioritizing your marriage can lead to deeper commitment and security.
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Intentions Without Systems Fail
- Good intentions alone rarely produce lasting change in a marriage because thinking is not doing.
- Alisa and Tony stress that intention must be paired with systems and action to avoid repeating past patterns.
Pick One Pillar To Focus
- Focus on one pillar of intimacy at a time for 30–90 days to create meaningful impact.
- Targeting one area (like finances) will naturally touch emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy.
Capacity And Readiness Matter
- Two hidden barriers to change are emotional capacity and readiness to do the internal work.
- Alisa explains that without addressing these, couples may want change but resist the necessary behavior shifts.
