Rikki and Jimmy on Relationships Masters vs Disasters of Relationships. This is the difference!
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Sep 19, 2024 
Dr. John Gottman, a leading researcher on relationships, and Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist, share their insights into the intricacies of love and conflict. They discuss emotional bids and the crucial 20-to-1 positive interaction ratio necessary for healthy partnerships. The Gottmans explain the importance of trust, effective conflict navigation, and the four horsemen of relationship breakdowns. They underscore the roles of affection, humor, and understanding in nurturing intimacy, revealing strategies to heal and strengthen connections.
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The Love Lab Experiment
- John Gottman ran a 'Love Lab' where couples stayed for days while hooked to sensors to study interactions.
- Researchers asked couples to discuss recurring conflicts and predicted long-term outcomes from the first three minutes of fights.
Small Bids, Big Relationship Impact
- Partners issue tiny daily bids for connection that either build or erode trust over time.
- Turning toward those bids consistently is a major predictor of relationship success.
Make Regular Deposits Into Their Emotional Bank
- Build a culture of appreciation by making frequent positive deposits into your partner's emotional bank account.
- Aim for many more positive interactions than negative ones so complaints land in a safe context.