

Unlocking Emotional Literacy for Men: Barriers, Foundations, and Attachments
Exploring Emotional Literacy and Attachment Styles
In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant delves into the crucial topic of emotional literacy with guest Alexandra Velez, creator of Secure School. They discuss the importance of recognizing, naming, and navigating emotions as a foundation for emotional intelligence, and how these skills significantly impact personal and relational well-being. Alexandra provides insights into how early life experiences and societal norms shape emotional development, particularly for men.
The conversation also touches on attachment styles, their origins, and how individuals can transform their attachment patterns to foster healthier relationships. Practical tools like the emotion wheel are suggested for better emotional management. Alexandra highlights the need for emotional education from an early age to prevent future relational and emotional challenges.
00:00 Introduction to Real Men Feel
00:40 Meet Alexandra Velez: Emotional Literacy Expert
01:18 Understanding Emotional Literacy vs. Emotional Intelligence
02:06 The Importance of Emotional Literacy in Daily Life
04:46 Overcoming Emotional Illiteracy
08:40 Practical Tools for Emotional Literacy
12:24 Attachment Styles Explained
17:57 The Role of Technology in Emotional Literacy
19:45 The Vision for Emotional Literacy Education
23:26 Challenges Men Face in Developing Emotional Literacy
25:53 The Availability Awards: Recognizing Emotional Unavailability
29:49 Final Thoughts and Where to Learn More
Connect with Alexandra
Alexandra Velez — http://www.mysecureera.com/
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/AlexandraBVelez/
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/alexandravelezm/
LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandravelez/
YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@mysecureera
Resources
The Love Pattern Report — https://www.mysecureera.com/my-love-pattern-reportThe Availability Awards by Alexandra Velez — https://amzn.to/4nUVqSg
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