Relationships Made Easy 162. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do If Your Partner Blames You When Things Go Wrong and Gaslights You
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Oct 5, 2021 Ever wondered how to deal with a partner who blames you for everything? This discussion dives into the psychology of blame and offers practical tools to combat gaslighting. Discover the BRAID acronym to identify harmful behaviors, and learn the importance of acknowledging emotions in your relationships. Setting healthy boundaries is emphasized, with strategies like 'loving detachment' and the 'I feel' formula to communicate effectively. Tune in for insights on fostering healthier and happier connections!
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Setting Boundaries with Family
- Set clear boundaries about how you want to be treated, even with family.
- You are not obligated to tolerate disrespectful behavior from anyone.
Reflecting on Relationship Health
- Reflect on how you feel in the relationship daily: cherished, loved, appreciated?
- Tolerating mistreatment often stems from past trauma and beliefs about self-worth.
Controlling Your Actions
- You can't change others, but you can control your actions and set boundaries.
- Communicate your boundaries clearly and enforce them consistently.