Breaking free from a victim mentality feels like an uphill battle, especially when life’s challenges seem relentless. It’s easy to feel stuck, as if circumstances are always working against you. Taking control of your mindset starts with small shifts—focusing on what you can change rather than what’s out of your hands. Over time, those small changes build momentum, helping you see that even in tough moments, you have the power to shape your response and move forward.

Mark England, co-founder and head coach of Enlifted, has over 18 years of experience helping individuals and organizations transform their lives through the power of words and mindset. Dedicated to breaking the cycle of victim mentality, he empowers others to reach their full potential. Mark defines mindset as "the story you tell yourself," a simple yet powerful reminder of the impact our internal dialogue has on shaping our reality. Join in as young leaders pose inquiries about life, personal development, and beyond!

Quotes:

“Your mindset is the story you tell yourself.” – Mark England
“When you learn to think about your thinking, you become alive in a new way.” – Mark England
“The faster the story goes, the harder it is to change. So if you want your children to listen to you, slow down your rate of speech. It's easier.” – Mark England
“Simplicity is evidence of genius. That is what I always strive for, and often fail at—creating simplicity in all that we are doing and things that I am saying—because it denotes an awareness and understanding that chaos cannot.” – Matt Beaudreau

Takeaways:

Slow down your rate of speech and incorporate intentional breathing when telling your own stories - this helps make them more meaningful and impactful.
Identify and replace "soft talk" language (words like "maybe," "hopefully," "guess") with more confident, assertive phrasing to improve decision-making and reduce indecision.
Write down your biggest questions for the year and explore how that differs from keeping them in your head - this can unlock new insights and clarity.
Celebrate your wins from the previous year by titling them like a movie and describing them in detail - this builds evidence of your capabilities.
Examine the stories you tell yourself about your identity, abilities, and circumstances - are they serving you, or is it time to rewrite the narrative?

Conclusion:

Changing how we speak to ourselves, selecting words intentionally, and celebrating progress can boost confidence and improve decision-making. These habits encourage a positive mindset and equip us to tackle challenges with clarity and assurance. Over time, they build self-worth and enhance our ability to handle both personal and professional decisions. This shift in perspective can transform how we relate to ourselves and the world around us.

Adult Children of Emotional Abuse