It’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You With Alex Howard

Dec 11, 2023

56:50

Episode Highlights With Alex

His personal story and how he got into the trauma healing work he does now
The definition of trauma and how he defines it to help people understand it
How small childhood experiences can shift how we relate to ourselves and our emotions
The core emotional needs of children and what happens when they aren’t met
Core emotional needs: boundaries, safety, and love
What a maladaptive stress response is, how it happens, and what to do about it
Trauma is like an ECHO (events, context, homeostatic shift, and outcome)
How to help your nervous system feel safe again
Self love comes down to how we are in relationship with ourselves and how we are in relationship with our feelings and emotions
It often isn’t a question of if our parents loved us but if they were skilled at meeting our particular need for love in the way we needed
His advice for ways to make sure our children feel how much we love them and that our core needs are being met

Resources We Mention