New Mindset, Who Dis? 740 - Stop letting other people ruin your life
Oct 2, 2025
The discussion explores how social comparison impacts our happiness and self-worth. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing that feelings of inadequacy are often relative, not absolute. Gratitude lists are suggested as a tool to shift perspective and appreciate real progress. The podcast also highlights that external success doesn't guarantee lasting happiness and encourages listeners to define their own measures of 'enough.' Ultimately, it advocates for living in the present instead of comparing ourselves to others.
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We Judge Ourselves Relatively
- Humans rarely evaluate their lives in a vacuum and instead judge by comparison to others.
- This relative judgment creates a persistent sense of being behind even when doing well.
Social Comparison Lowers Satisfaction
- Social comparison theory explains why upward comparisons deflate self-esteem and satisfaction.
- Seeing people ahead of us makes us feel worse despite our objective achievements.
Question The Signal From Your Brain
- Ask whether you're actually lacking something essential or just uncomfortable because someone appears to have more.
- If it's discomfort, correct your perspective instead of altering your life to chase others.
