Front Row Dads with Jon Vroman This Is What Unresolved Trauma Looks Like in a Father's Life
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Jul 16, 2025 In this engaging discussion, Dr. Bob Beare, a licensed therapist and founder of Deep Waters Recovery, shares insights from his decades of experience helping men confront unresolved trauma. He explores why parenting frustrations often stem from our own childhood experiences. Bob emphasizes the importance of healing the nervous system and being a model of emotional regulation for children. They also discuss how shame manifests from trauma, and the vital need for men to engage in inner work to prevent passing on their wounds to their kids.
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Unconscious Childhood Messages Drive Behavior
- Unconscious childhood messages drive adult patterns we don't want, like overworking or anger.
- Awareness of when you're "doing shit you don't want to do" is the doorway to healing.
Notice Conflicts Then Get Support
- Start by noticing the conflicts and repeated behaviors that feel wrong to you.
- Get support to resolve trauma instead of medicating conflicts with busyness or substances.
Modeling Beats Lecturing
- Kids learn more from watching a healthy parent's life than from direct lecturing.
- Trying to be the perfect teacher often pressures children and creates enmeshment.
