Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 519 - Competing for Attention: Why Your Partner's Distraction Hurts
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Mar 4, 2025 In a world filled with distractions, the importance of attentiveness in relationships shines through. The discussion dives deep into how distractions, especially from phones, can create feelings of neglect. Strategies for minimizing these distractions are explored, along with the concept of 'bids for attention' from partners. The emotional toll of partner fubbing is highlighted, particularly for those with anxious attachment styles. Listeners learn about the significance of perceived responsiveness and setting clear communication expectations to strengthen their connections.
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Phone Snubbing Irony
- Dedeker judges people who overuse phones on dates.
- Ironically, an older couple scolded her and Jace for being on their phones during dinner.
Managing Attention
- Create rituals to regain attention, like leaving your phone in another room.
- Prioritize tasks and accept that you can't always do everything.
Intentional Attention Shifts
- Make intentional shifts to focus on your partner.
- Communicate when you need time to address other matters before giving full attention.