#59 - Stop being so hard on yourself (solo ep)

Aug 21, 2024

This heartfelt discussion dives into the struggles of self-criticism and negative self-talk. It explores how childhood experiences shape our inner narratives and strategies to cultivate self-compassion. Personal anecdotes reveal the impact of early family dynamics on self-worth. Four practical tips are shared to encourage kindness towards oneself. The emphasis is on transforming negative thoughts into supportive affirmations while recognizing the importance of a care team. Get ready to embrace a more loving inner dialogue!

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ANECDOTE

Vivian's Childhood Impact

Vivian Van shares how her parents' messy divorce shaped her harsh inner critic from a young age.
She was caught in the middle, absorbing their negative words as personal truths, impacting her self-esteem.

ADVICE

Use Younger Self Photo

Change your phone wallpaper to a picture of your younger self to remind you to be kind during negative self-talk.
This triggers gentler thoughts and pauses harsh inner criticisms throughout the day.

ADVICE

Reframe Negative Self-Talk

Reframe negative self-talk by changing statements like "I mess up" to positive beliefs like "I will learn and improve."
Remove harmful labels from your vocabulary and acknowledge your role with curiosity instead.

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Our first ever solo episode with Viv is here! ◡̈ Ro and I wanted to experiment with new episode formats in season 2 so we’ll be bringing these solo ones to the poddy once a month! This week’s chat, while deeply personal, is on a topic that sooo many of us can relate to :’) It’s about that little voice within that tells you “you’re not good enough,” “you can’t do it” “you’re not worth it”… sound familiar? No matter how loud or frequent that inner critic—or sometimes what feels more like an inner bully—shows up in our heads, we can all find ways to better understand how our upbringing, past life experiences, or relationships have influenced that negative narrative. We can learn to lean more into the support of our trusted care team (see episode 33 😉) and create a nurturing environment that fosters a more loving and encouraging voice within! In other words, we can all learn how to give bigger and warmer ~hugs~ to ourselves using our ~voice~! In this episode, Viv reflects on her earliest memories with feuding parents and the impact their divorce had on shaping her inner critic. She also shares four tips and tricks that have helped her become more kind and compassionate toward herself. While the first three can be implemented as early as today, stay tuned for the final tip, which has been the most impactful of the four :) So, if you’ve been a bit hard on yourself lately or if your inner bully is louder than usual, this one’s for you ♡ As always, thank you so much for being here. Big, big voice hugs!!

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