Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Dr. Becky on Becoming the Person (and Parent) You Needed
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Nov 24, 2025 
Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and founder of Good Inside, shares invaluable insights into parenting and self-development. She highlights how unresolved childhood issues affect parenting styles and emphasizes the importance of reparenting ourselves for healthier relationships. The discussion covers emotional regulation, resilience over happiness, and the concept of 'sturdy' parenting, blending firmness with empathy. Dr. Becky also stresses the need for connection capital and the role of shame in children’s behavior, offering practical strategies for improvement.
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Parents Are The System Changers
- Parents change family systems by changing themselves rather than blaming children or partners.
- Becky Kennedy calls this empowering: 'parents are the solution' and the pilot of the plane.
Behavior ≠ Identity
- Bad behavior often reflects 'feelings with no skills' rather than bad identity.
- Kennedy calls mislabeling this a 'collapse of behavior and identity' that fuels harsh responses.
Pre-Vaccinate Emotions Before Conflicts
- Prep children for predictable triggers by naming feelings and offering strategies in advance.
- Sit with them at risky moments and give brief coaching to reduce hitting and jealousy.
