I Thought I Was Being a Good Partner… Until I Burned Out

On this raw and revealing episode of Love Isn’t Enough, Joree opens up about a powerful realization that shook her to the core: she’s a high-functioning codependent. Together, John and Joree explore what high-functioning codependency actually looks like—especially in women who seem to have it all together—and how it can quietly erode your sense of peace, boundaries, and self-worth.

They dive into Terri Cole’s definition of HFCs, how childhood trauma and anxious attachment fuel overgiving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and the cost of constantly putting others’ needs ahead of your own. With vulnerability, real-life stories, and therapeutic tools, they unpack the emotional toll and begin the path toward healing.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by doing it all, unsure of where your needs fit in, or afraid to stop performing for love—this episode will feel like a mirror… and a lifeline. And remember, you don’t have to earn love by doing. You are already worthy—just as you are.

Listen now to learn:

• What high-functioning codependency is (and how it sneaks up on you)

• The roots of HFC: childhood dynamics, hyper-responsibility, and fear of abandonment

• How to begin healing through boundaries, self-worth, and inner reparenting

• Why awareness is the first act of liberation

• What to do in your relationship when one of you realizes you are a HFC

Connect with Joree & John:

• Website: www.loveisntenough.net

• Instagram: @loveisntenough33

• Subscribe to their podcast: Love Isn’t Enough

• Join our relationship Master Class series: https://loveisntenough.net/masterclass/

 

Connect with Dr. John Schinnerer:

• Website: www.guidetoself.com

• Instagram: @theevolvedcaveman

• Subscribe to his podcast: The Evolved Caveman

 

Connect with Joree Rose:

• Website: www.joreerose.com

• Instagram: @joreerose

• Subscribe to her podcast: Journey Forward with Joree Rose

• Join the Podcast Membership: https://joreerose.com/journeyforwardpodcast/