Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?
Aug 20, 2024
This discussion dives into the relationship escalator and how it affects non-monogamous dynamics. They explore the societal expectations around milestones like marriage and cohabitation while unpacking the emotional complexities involved. There's a focus on open communication, differing desires, and how past relationships shape current aspirations. Listeners learn about navigating these challenges and aligning their goals with partners, all while considering the evolving perspectives of modern relationships.
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Arguments Against the Escalator
- Arguments against the relationship escalator include its inflexibility and pressure to conform.
- It can force partners into roles they weren't chosen for and prioritize milestones over the relationship itself.
Arguments For the Escalator
- Societal structures offer benefits to escalator relationships, like employer benefits and social validation.
- These advantages, while stemming from societal norms, are valid desires.
Emotional Aspects of the Escalator
- Consider the emotional aspects of the escalator, like expressing romance and deepening connection.
- These emotional milestones are valid alongside logistical ones.