In this episode, the hosts discuss a range of interesting topics, including distinguishing between legitimate bills and scams, frustrations with specialists waiting rooms, Black Friday sales and handheld steamers. They also address listener questions about dating multiple guys at the same time and navigating a relationship where one partner prioritizes sex.
The partner's focus on sex as the most important aspect of the relationship shows a lack of empathy and understanding for the writer's needs and health.
It is important for the writer to have an open and honest conversation with their partner about their mismatched sexual needs and his manipulative behavior.
A small handheld portable steamer has been recommended as a game-changer for travelers, making garment steaming convenient and efficient.
Deep dives
Mismatched Priorities: His Focus on Sex
The partner of three years has made sex his number one priority in the relationship, telling the writer that they need to have more sex or he will leave. He believes their sex life is inadequate and uses the lack of sex as a reason for not being engaged. However, the writer has vaginismus, making sex uncomfortable and unenjoyable. Despite this, they still engage in sex for their partner's satisfaction. The writer feels low and guilty about the situation.
Lack of Empathy and Manipulation
The partner's focus on sex as the most important aspect of the relationship shows a lack of empathy and understanding for the writer's needs and health. He prioritizes his own satisfaction above her well-being and uses marriage as a manipulative tool to pressure her into having more sex. This manipulation undermines the writer's self-esteem and boundaries.
Importance of Communication and Decision-making
It is important for the writer to have an open and honest conversation with their partner about their mismatched sexual needs and his manipulative behavior. They need to evaluate whether this relationship is healthy and fulfilling for both parties, considering the lack of empathy and understanding displayed by the partner. It may be necessary for the writer to reevaluate their long-term compatibility and whether they can find a partner who respects and accommodates their needs.
Handheld Portable Steamer: A Life-Changing Device for Travelers
A small handheld portable steamer has been recommended as a game-changer for travelers. With its compact size and quick heating capability, this steamer allows for easy and efficient garment steaming. Whether you're traveling domestically or overseas, this device is highly portable and can save you from the hassle of ironing. It has been praised for its convenience and effectiveness, making it a top recommendation in the realm of garment care.
Habit Tracker App: A Useful Tool for Personal Development
A habit tracking app called Habit Tracker has been hailed as a valuable tool for personal growth. This app allows users to set goals and track their progress in various areas of life. By selecting habits or behaviors they want to develop or eliminate, users can set reminders and create a daily routine. The app provides an easy-to-use interface that simplifies the process of setting and monitoring personal goals. It has been praised for its effectiveness in helping users stay accountable and work towards positive changes in their lives.
Hey Lifers! Welcome back to therapy where we all share our shit and feel better about ourselves!
First up today, well... it's chaos. Bills need to be paid and they're multiplying! But we also need to learn to distinguish the difference between a legitimate bill and a scam. *Brittany Hockley we are looking at you. We're all up to date with our skin checks, but Laura's got a bee in her bonnet about specialists waiting rooms.
Vibes this week:
Laura: Black Friday sales (swipe up swipe up ToniMay)
I’m 49 and have been divorced for 3 years after a 26 year marriage. I’m quite content on my own and have great friends but I recently decided to try online dating, just to see what it’s about and to have some male company and my profile says ‘nothing serious’. Anyway, I’ve been catching up with one guy once a month for dinner and sex; he is really lovely. Last weekend I went on a date with a different guy and he was wonderful too. My problem is… can I date 2 guys at the same time? I feel so guilty. The first guy probably wouldn’t mind that much but the second guy would hate it. Do I have to tell them about each other?
My partner of 3 years has told me if I don’t ‘put out’ more he is going to leave me. We are both in our early 30s and his number 1 priority in a relationship is sex. We currently have sex twice a week and that isn’t enough for him. He told me our sex life is shit and makes him unhappy and people our age should be having sex all the time. I have vaginismus which is getting better but I don’t find sex enjoyable. I cannot orgasm from penetration, it can be uncomfortable but I can still have sex. He has said everything else in our relationship is perfect but the reason we are not engaged is because of the sex.. I feel really low about this. Any advice please
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for the last year and a half. I've been a nurse for the last 5 years working with children and I've seen some terrible things. When we first started dating he mentioned he didn’t like hearing these “horrible stories'' so I lessened them. Just recently I was talking about work again and he said the same thing “I don’t want to hear about these stories.' I obviously don’t want to upset him but from time to time I want him to listen to my day and just vent. Am I being ridiculous by being upset that my partner can’t handle listening to my stories here and there? Or do I just stop talking about work altogether?
We spoke about our episode on vaginismus with the wonderful Jessie Stephens and you can listen here
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