The Optimistic Outlook with John Eades The Most Dangerous Addiction
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Dec 5, 2025 Exploring the pitfalls of seeking approval, the discussion highlights how it can become an addictive chase tied to our dopamine response. When confidence is built on others' praise, it sets us up for disappointment when the applause fades. A mentor’s caution underscores the danger of losing sight of self-identity in this pursuit. Instead, the conversation encourages listeners to pivot from external validation to personal standards, emphasizing that true excellence comes from within.
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Approval Feels Good But Can Trap You
- Approval from others gives a dopamine hit but can become an addictive crutch.
- When confidence is tied to applause, you'll crash as soon as the applause fades.
'Plugged Into A Christmas Tree' Moment
- John Eades describes feeling 'plugged into a Christmas tree' after kind responses to a newsletter.
- The surge of approval made him struggle to remove a smile and highlighted the pleasure of praise.
Chasing Applause Undermines Identity
- Chasing external approval leads you to lose yourself trying to earn it.
- Relying on applause makes crashes inevitable when external praise disappears.