You Are Not A Frog Why “You Always Have a Choice” Makes Doctors Feel Worse (And What to Say Instead)
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Jan 20, 2026 Explore why the phrase 'you always have a choice' can make doctors feel overwhelmed. Discover how to identify 'impossible choices' shaped by guilt and professional identity. Learn the effective BRAN framework to weigh decisions and empower yourself. Dive into techniques for reframing dilemmas into actionable tasks, along with power mantras to navigate common challenges. This insightful discussion emphasizes the importance of informed self-consent and tolerating disapproval to prevent burnout.
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Choice Can Be Guilt-Loaded
- "You always have a choice" is technically true but can increase guilt when options carry shame or harm.
- Dr Rachel Morris argues that many choices for doctors feel impossible because one option triggers shame or identity threat.
Pause When Your Amygdala Hijacks You
- Spot when your nervous system has hijacked your thinking and the decision feels binary.
- Pause and name that you are in fight, flight, freeze or fawn before acting.
Beautician Modelled Boundaries
- Dr Rachel Morris recounts a beautician who refused an impossible last-minute waxing request because she was fully booked.
- The beautician offered alternatives instead of rescuing, showing compassionate boundary-setting in practice.