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Episode 269: Vanessa Van Edwards - Charisma. Are You Born With It or Can You Learn It?

Feb 28, 2022
Vanessa Van Edwards, Lead Behavioral Investigator at Science of People, delves into charisma, debunking myths of being born with it. She shares insights on managing social anxiety and awkwardness, explores non-verbal cues for charisma, and discusses the importance of saying no to opportunities that don't align with goals.
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ANECDOTE

From Awkward to Viral Success

  • Vanessa Van Edwards struggled with social anxiety and awkwardness growing up but started sharing tips as an ambivert.
  • Her small blog post on overcoming awkward small talk unexpectedly went viral, showing many share her feelings.
INSIGHT

Charisma Is Learnable & Balanced

  • Charisma is 30% innate but 70% cultivated, coming in many flavors beyond extroversion.
  • Balance warmth and competence to be trusted and respected, as imbalance causes being perceived as cold or ineffective.
INSIGHT

Brain Reacts Instantly to Social Cues

  • Spotting social rejection cues like eye rolls triggers an expanded field of vision and social defense mechanisms.
  • Our amygdala scans endlessly for warmth and alliance, driving subconscious reactions in social situations.
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