In this episode, Khadijah, a grounded soul with energy and vivacity for life, must confront her deep-seated people-pleasing tendencies and accept her self-worth in order to level up her business and achieve her goal of shifting culture.

Khadijah is a multidisciplinary creative and brand strategist from Erbil, Iraq. She is a Visual Arts graduate of LaGuardia High School in New York City, a Barnard College alumni in Middle Eastern Studies, and a graphic design student from Shillington College.

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. Turning Chaos Into Order: How can we use our creative energy to level up, transform our lives and businesses, and find stability in the midst of chaos?

2. Redefining Identity: How can we explore and celebrate our cultural identities and create meaningful representations of ourselves in the world?

3. Money Mindset: What are the deeper issues behind money mindset, and how can we redefine our value and worth through our daily routines?

[4:30] Khadijah’s challenge
[6:14] The big learnings and takeaways
[9:13] Exploring people pleasing
[11:00] People pleasing as a trauma response
[13:15] Reframing the “niche” business
[14:49] Reframing the limiting belief that there isn’t enough work for Khadijah
[17:36] Khadijah’s three examples that debunk her limiting belief
[20:30] The challenges with identity
[22:50] Moving towards what calls you
[23:48] Shaping Khadijah’s thought-leadership
[28:03] Next steps and actions

Quotes

“People pleasing is often a trauma response. It's what we've done in the family system to stay safe, to stay lovable, to not be abandoned. And you and I are both Arab. A lot of Arab cultures are collective cultures, right? Collective culture and codependent culture can sit side by side because oftentimes, we are told to defer to our elders or it's really patriarchal. So we're taught oftentimes to abandon ourselves or to put others first. There's this big, huge reclamation that's happening for you that's saying, no more.”

“87% of women actually ascribe genius, brilliance, ambition to men, and think of it as a male trait.”

“What I'm hearing is breaking the cultural stereotypes in design. And you know how big that is? There are stereotypes everywhere in design. You get out on stage or on Instagram, and you talk about that, your books will be full.”

Connect with Amina AlTai

Website: aminaaltai.com

Instagram: @aminaaltai

TikTok: @theaminaaltai

Linkedin: linkedin/in/aminaaltai

Connect with Khadijah Abdul Nabi

Website: YaKhadijah.com

Instagram: @YaKhadijah

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