Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2579: Healthy Relationships and Fighting: What Therapists Want You To Know by Dr. Diana Kirschner of Love in 90 Days
May 6, 2025
Healthy relationships aren’t devoid of conflict; in fact, arguments can enhance intimacy when managed well. Dr. Diana Kirschner shares six therapist-approved techniques, like the 'Take Two' method, to help couples navigate disagreements. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity, suggesting that successful partnerships require airing differences rather than avoiding them. Surprisingly, the true adversary isn’t your partner but the stress reactions that arise during conflicts. Ultimately, she invites listeners to ponder whether being right is more important than being close.
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Fighting Indicates Authenticity
- Fighting is common and can be healthy in relationships, indicating authenticity and communication.
- Couples who never fight may lack safety to express feelings, risking intimacy and honesty.
No Arguments Can Signal Problems
- Couples who never argue might not feel safe to express true feelings honestly.
- Lack of honest communication can be a serious relationship problem.
Avoid Arguing in Anger
- Avoid arguing when angry to prevent stress flooding and loss of reason.
- Use breathing, timeout, or humor to calm yourself before continuing the conversation.