Kat & Steve - Fighting over (literally) nothing

In this episode, Steve and I are in a real-life scenario that could’ve turned into a full-blown issue—if we didn’t have the tools we do. And honestly? The “problem” wasn’t even real. It was one I’d made up in my head.

Here’s how it went down: I was feeling off with Steve. Frustrated, withholding love, and just carrying this low-level resentment. Add in a bit of LOL - I hadn’t actually communicated my needs to him. Not once. Instead, I expected him to read my mind, know what I needed, and magically fix it. Spoiler alert: he didn’t, and I got annoyed at him for it.

This is where one of our tools came into play: “Is there something we need to clear?” It’s a simple question, but it creates a space for honesty, connection, and truth. So, we used it, live on the podcast. I shared what was going on in my head, openly and vulnerably, even though it wasn’t pretty.

I admitted that I’d been expecting him to guess my needs and that my frustration wasn’t about him—it was about me not expressing myself. Just saying it out loud shifted everything. The heaviness lifted, and I landed back in my heart.

Steve, being the legend he is, listened without getting defensive. We talked it out, and by the end, what could’ve turned into a massive disconnect became a moment of deeper understanding.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever let an unspoken expectation create tension in their relationship. We share how to use this tool to clear the air and stay connected, even when things get messy. Because the truth is, your partner isn’t a mind reader, and you can’t hold them accountable for needs you don’t express.

Give it a listen—it’s a game-changer. And as always, we’d love to hear your thoughts and how this lands for you.

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