CIA SPY Couple DECODE Marriage | EverydaySpy Podcast Ep. 14
Sep 18, 2023
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A CIA spy couple discusses the challenges of prioritizing date nights after having children. They explore the destructive power of contempt and criticism in early marriage. They emphasize the importance of intentional quality time and applying CIA spy skills to build genuine relationships. They also discuss the role of touch in parent-child bonding and the concept of building social capital in relationships. They reflect on the level of interaction and transparency in the CIA.
Date nights are crucial for nurturing relationships, facilitating open communication and bonding, free from distractions of work and children.
Building social capital involves understanding and meeting the needs of others, and spending it is key for creating positive change and advancing relationships.
Deep dives
Relationships are transactional
All relationships are transactional. This has been demonstrated anthropologically, sociologically, and psychologically. Relationships are all transactional because individuals exchange social capital, which can be spent, saved, and invested.
The importance of date nights
Date nights are crucial for nurturing relationships. They facilitate open communication and bonding, which are essential for sustaining a healthy partnership. Date nights create an opportunity for couples to pour their love and attention into each other, free from the distractions of work and children. It is important to prioritize and make time for regular date nights to maintain and strengthen the connection.
Understanding social capital
Social capital is the currency of relationships. Just like money, social capital can be earned, spent, saved, and invested. Building social capital involves understanding and meeting the needs of others, whether it's through positive interactions, support, or simply listening. Spending social capital is key to creating positive change and advancing relationships.
The challenges and rewards of being a married CIA couple
Being a married CIA couple has its challenges and rewards. At times, the operations and assignments can separate the couple, limiting communication and creating uncertainty. However, working together as a tandem can highlight complementary strengths and enhance the effectiveness of their work. The experience of being married CIA officers brings unique insights into nurturing relationships and building social capital.
here are two words that immediately strike hope and sadness into the heart of every married parent… ‘Date Night!’ Hope because we all remember what it’s like to fall in love and have uninterrupted romantic time together. And sadness because we know how impossibly difficult it is to relive those days once you have children. Jihi and I share your pain and are on our own path toward perfecting date night. If you want our recipe for great connection, romance, and mommy-daddy time, tune in! We’ll give you a few spy skills to win over the kids along the way…