LATE BLOOMERS WHY BEING “NICE” IS MAKING YOU MISERABLE: How to stop people pleasing and finally put yourself first
Mar 26, 2025
This discussion dives into the struggles of people pleasing, revealing how it stems from childhood conditioning and leads to anxiety and burnout. The hosts share personal stories, highlighting the sacrifices made in careers and relationships. They provide practical advice on setting boundaries, reprogramming the need for approval, and recognizing the difference between helping others and losing oneself. With a mix of raw honesty and humor, listeners learn the importance of prioritizing self-identity over the desire to be liked.
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Childhood Shapes People Pleasing
- People pleasing often comes from childhood conditioning to be the 'good girl' or 'good boy'.
- That conditioning makes authentic self-expression feel unsafe and undesirable.
Songwriting Fueled People Pleasing
- Rox describes being a songwriter who suppressed her own art to satisfy others' visions.
- She had to prioritise her dream to become Rory and stop people pleasing to succeed.
Rejection Fear Fuels Pleasing
- Fear of rejection drives people pleasers to sacrifice their needs to avoid being disliked.
- ADHD-related rejection sensitivity can intensify the urge to please and mask true feelings.