562 Get the Respect You Deserve in Your Relationships With This One Tip
Nov 28, 2023
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Discover the importance of discernment in relationships and learn how to set boundaries and choose the right people. Understand the impact of family upbringing on our ability to discern what is normal and healthy for us. Learn how to manage expectations and avoid regretful situations. Develop discernment through boundaries, mindfulness, and assertiveness.
Discernment is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships and helps us set boundaries and protect ourselves emotionally and energetically.
Being discerning involves understanding the difference between preferences, desires, and deal breakers, and helps us confidently assert our boundaries in relationships while avoiding confusion with others' preferences.
Deep dives
The Importance of Discernment in Relationships
Discernment plays a crucial role in maintaining healthy relationships. It involves making intelligent and thoughtful decisions based on what we need and want. By being discerning, we can improve the quality of our relationships and our overall well-being. It helps us set boundaries and distinguish between our preferences, limits, and deal breakers. Discernment is especially important if we grew up in dysfunctional or abusive environments, as it can help us break free from repeating toxic patterns. By being discerning, we can protect ourselves emotionally and energetically, choosing to only be vulnerable with emotionally trustworthy individuals. One key aspect of discernment is taking the time to truly get to know someone before opening up to them, as not everyone deserves access to our most vulnerable selves.
Boundaries and Discernment
Discernment and boundaries go hand in hand. To be discerning, we must understand the difference between preferences, desires, and deal breakers when it comes to setting boundaries. Preferences are negotiable, while desires hold deeper importance. Deal breakers, on the other hand, are non-negotiable and crucial for our well-being. Having discernment allows us to assert our boundaries confidently and communicate them effectively in our relationships. It also helps us avoid confusing the preferences, limits, and deal breakers of others with our own, enabling us to make more informed decisions.
Applying Discernment in Relationships
Being discerning requires us to evaluate how we feel after interacting with people. If we consistently feel drained, used, or exhausted, it may be a sign that we need to be more discerning in those relationships. We have the right to be selective about who has access to us and set clear boundaries. Discernment involves being self-aware and knowing when to provide context and information to others. It also means being mindful of the feedback we accept from others and prioritizing our own well-being. By practicing discernment, we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Are there people in your life who don’t respect your boundaries?
People you can’t talk true around, who use your words against you later?
People who don’t support what is best for you?
People who take and take, leaving you drained?
If you are nodding your head, you might need more discernment when it comes to who has access to you, and how much.
In this episode, I am covering what discernment is, why being discerning with the people in our life is important, how to practice discernment, and how discernment can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.